Unless I am housebound for 24 hours, I don't think there is a day that goes by where someone doesn't ask me, “how do you do it with four kids?” usually followed by “you’ve got your hands full” or “you must be really busy”. It’s funny because all of those comments are valid and if I stepped outside my reality for a moment I would probably be asking or saying the same things to another mom. The funny thing is, I really don't know how to answer the question of how I do it. I just do. Probably because I don't have a choice and mostly because I ask God for his strength and patience every single day.
In the midst of all the chaos I try to remember how blessed I am to have little ones and how quickly this time will pass. I often get down on myself for not being the Pinterest mom that I would like to be; capturing every moment through a lens and documenting it all. I wish I had a scribe like back in the day that could follow me around and write down all the memories that are being made.
At the same time, I have yearnings to do things that are outside of my children. I have a drive inside of my head with many business ideas that I have put to the side for now. As funny as it sounds, I miss the moments of freedom and selfishness that existed in my life beforehand. Then, of course, even just writing those thoughts down, the guilt floods in. In motherhood there are so many things that make you feel guilty. It starts with being pregnant and your diet, then whether you choose to breastfeed, then how long you breastfeed, then how well behaved your toddler is, then how much time you spend with your toddler, etc. etc. etc. etc. It never ends.
Just like there is an unrealistic ideal for women’s appearances, there is an unrealistic ideal for motherhood. The truth is, we all do it the best way we know how. We need to stop comparing ourselves and learn to embrace the season that we are in. Realize that the pictures you see of other moms are just pictures - little snippets of their life that most likely do not reflect the crazy moments before or difficult ones that followed. We need to learn to “do motherhood” in a supportive group of family and friends who encourage us, love our families where we are at, listen to our heartaches and frustrations and celebrate our accomplishments - even if that accomplishment was just a shower! lol
Just a little video on motherhood...enjoy xo