Motherhood: 5 Lessons Learned

Growing up I always dreamed of having a daughter. God has blessed me with not one, but three beautiful girls.  Everyday I am thankful for the gift that they are. I never want to take motherhood for granted. 

My doctor wasn’t sure if I would be able to have children, so with each pregnancy I was truly thankful. My first pregnancy did not go as planned. Just after the excitement of getting that positive test, I became very ill. I will never forget the doctor telling me that they needed to operate but there was no guarantee my baby would survive. I couldn’t risk it, so I told the doctor that I would wait until her delivery. His response, “If we don’t operate now, neither of you will survive.” In that moment as I sat in the hospital, I realized the weight of motherhood. Just weeks before I didn’t even know I was pregnant and now I fiercely wanted to protect my sweet baby. Many surgeries later, I delivered a healthy “miracle baby”; she will be 10 years old this summer.

I have learned so much from being a mom - about my kids, and about myself. These are a few of the lessons I’ve learned:

1.     Motherhood is humbling – As an Early Childhood Educator I had an opinion and confidence about everything child related. Now, I understand that this gig is hard and that no one knows their child’s needs better than them. I try not to judge others on their parenting, knowing they are doing what they feel is best for their child and family.

2.     It’s true what they say: The days are long but the years are short. I can’t believe my youngest is already 5. I try to savour every moment, knowing in a blink my girls will be grown. These pictures are proof of how fast time flies and kids change. It's been 2 years since these photos were taken...eek! How did that happen?

3.     It takes a village – I could not survive motherhood without the support of friends and family. Our families are a great support but live far away so we are thankful for friends who have stepped in to love and care for our family. 

4.     Laugh often – I love having fun with my girls and want them to live in a home that is filled with joy and laughter. Kids love seeing their mama being silly!

5.     Don’t compare – God gave me my children on purpose and for a purpose. Don’t fall into a trap of comparison. Live the life you have been called to. Be the mother God has made you to be and give yourself slack. Some days we make mistakes, some days we just downright fail. But tomorrow is a new day. Thankfully a legacy is made over a lifetime; not a season.